Games

She let him go. After fifteen years of him lusting for her, she decided she had enough. No more foolish games, she decided. Dolores knew that there was something that got her out of bed at 6am drenched in sweat even though it was winter outside her window.

No more, she kept saying to herself. Jacob had driven her to the brink of insanity with their affair. His ex always in the way of things, and after all , Dolores is married. She had no business having this affair. it was torture on her soul. How could she do this to her husband? She knew the pain that it would inflict on him and the consequences that it would follow. Dolores knew that it was wrong, and that even though she had not gotten caught, she knew that if she continued, that soon enough she would suffer rough consequences. A husband with a short fuse, a lover that doesn’t know what he really wants, possible financial ruin, and the constant reminder that she was breaking someone else’s heart. All in all, she knows what she has to do.. the right thing..

Spoiled

Ok, so how do I explain this..Here it is, My husband has spoiled me. Over the past 8 years or so, I have gotten used to being around him, and having him around me whenever we needed each other within the hour. Does that make me wrong? He and I used to have each other’s back. Not that we don’t anymore, but seems like almost not anymore. So now, I find myself having to cook for one, cleaning everything on my own, and doing dishes..sooo many dishes.At the same time I find that the things that I used to do have come back to visit me yet again. That also includes romantic interests. Before you jump to conclusions, I would never cheat on my husband. Lord knows I have had many chances, but I have never actually acted upon them. But, with the lack of attention that I have gotten from my husband, it is nice to get attention from someone else. I will not do anything about it, but it has made certain transitions pass by much easier than usual. I have to admit, with the new found isolation, it is hard not to follow my immediate desires. Let me give you an example, one of them is a basketball player, a good one. Imagine if you will, 6ft 4in tall, naturally tan skin,dark hair, leaf green eyes… and he has loved me for almost 20 years. However, honor before dishonor.. Marinate on that…

I have found one way to pass the time. I have started to work on a romance novel. If you look through some of my older blog posts, I have already included excerpts . I think I will keep working on it. I can see that it will lead me to better behavior…maybe…

Options

We all have options. The option to get up in the morning or to push the snooze button, to go to work, to stay faithful,to draw breath. My best friend since high school is going through a really hard time because of the nature of his options. You see, he is in love. He is also the type of guy in “high demand”. He is sweet, handsome, hard working, balanced, and has a lot to offer in many ways. The problem, or issue depending on how you look at it is that he is in love with someone who is not available,  literally…. She is married. Some may automatically gasp at the thought, but I think it’s sweet from the stand point that he won’t let anything , even the fact that someone is unavailable on the account of  marriage not teach him the meaning of love. Don’t get me wrong,  I am not promoting infidelity, I just think his way of going about it is sweet, He’s her lobster….

I guess I have some explaining to do, at least about the whole lobster thing. Once a lobster finds a mate, they are together for the remainder of their days, so I’ve been told. Many species in the animal kingdom follow this practice, and so do some humans. Well, this is what I have seen my friend do, he has found his lobster. To better understand this, we will give these lobsters names.  Let’s call him Andy and her Angel. Those two have been at each other’s radar for over 17 years. They’re there for each other, they flirt with each other, and then they somehow end up with other people. Well, all of this took a different turn when about 9 years ago, Angel showed up to Andy’s hospital bedside with another man. This was a man that Angel had mentioned to Andy several times over the phone, but had never presented in front of him until his heart was in trouble and he ended up in the hospital. It made things complicated. At the time that this happened, Angel and her now husband Craig were just testing the waters to see if things would work as they had only known each other for a few weeks at the time. Andy knew that this was not just a guy for Angel because he could see it in Craig’s eyes that he loved her. Maybe he hadn’t told her, but he knew he loved her. There only problem that day was that Craig could see it in Andy’s eyes that he loved her too. For this reason, each of them paid extra attention to her in any way they could. Their stares towards her were a little longer, their hugs were a little tighter and they would each in their own way sit a little closer when they had the chance.  The three of them til this day act as if their lives came from a scene from Twilight.

 

Angel loves them both. Each with a passion that only belongs to them separately and their individual circumstances. She loves Craig because even though as silly as he may act sometimes, he would never give up what they have. On the other hand Angel loves Andy because he has always been there, and the sheer principle that there is nothing that he wouldn’t do for her… even if it meant  that his whole world would change. So, if your options were open, what would you do?

The Good Life

My cousin is a doctor. Right now she is doing her residency and so she works close to 16 hours a day. We are all very proud of her. I know that it takes dedication and real desire to be able to get this done. I find that since her schedule is so busy and she lives so far away, that our time with her is really precious. She used to be with this really nice guy, but I think , from what I remember her commitments and schedule broke them up. It was a real shame because they are or were I’m not sure a really cute, devoted, and sweet couple. They used to be inseparable.

I am now starting to understand what her boyfriend went through while trying to have a relationship with her. As I have mentioned before , I recently became the wife of a cab driver. Don’t get me wrong, we have been married for over 7 years, so us getting together is not new, but the job is new. This also means that the schedule is new. Anyway, we are trying to make it. However , I am starting to notice some changes between us. I know that to some of you who read this , it may seem like I am complaining all the time. Let me be clear, this is not complaining, these are mere observations. Complains are the type of thing you just talk about without really wanting to do anything about changing your situation. Observations are totally objective and when you see something about the situation that you don’t like then the observer may choose to change what is happening by doing something about it. These are observations, so far.  However, I am starting to see some changes that may need to be made.

Let’s step back into a few days ago if you will.  When the training started, we were both all for it.. The first thing I noticed was that his schedule seems to be very close to that of a doctor’s schedule. While this schedule does not include the debt of the medical degree, or the inside information into the health care system, it does seem to include the isolation of it. The other day, I noticed that when my husband stopped by to see a friend before he came home. I usually don’t mind that, but I hadn’t seen him in over 12 hours, so naturally, I wanted to be the first one that got to see him outside of work. Another thing that happened was that when he finally got home, all he did was take a shower, eat dinner, and 20 minutes later crawl into bed and pass out until the alarm clock went off at 5am claiming that he was just going to take a nap. No conversation to speak off except to defend his schedule, and to tell me about how his hours would change in a few days into 2 hours earlier from the present schedule. I guess I am noticing that I have to take a number now when it comes to my husband. I don’t mind, I am used to having to take a number when it comes to romance, but it’s new when it comes to having to take a number with my husband. I am used to being his number one. Is it wrong on me to want the perks of a doctor’s schedule even through we may not have the salary? Or am I entitled to be the first appointment on my husband’s schedule?